What can you cost you friendship
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? Moving to another country? Change in lifestyle? Serious discrepancies in views? There is no at all: to lose a loved one, it is often enough just to behave as described below.
1. Comparison with others
We will be honest: none of us are pleased when we are compared with others, especially if the comparison is not in our favor. If you often tell a friend about some of your friends or praise friends of friends, sooner or later he can decide that you do not value him, that what he does for you is not enough, and he himself is not good enough.
So do not rush to tell an old friend about how stylishly your current environment is dressed or how interesting you are with new acquaintances. Try to appreciate the path that you made together, and the fact that he remained nearby when you needed it. Respectly treat what a friend does, even if it seems to you that his progress and successes are not so great.
2. Reminders of past mistakes
Remembering your own failures is quite painful, but you know that it is even more unpleasant? When someone else reminds us of them, especially if this “someone” is a person whom we consider a friend.
Therefore, you should not remind a loved one about the accident that he got into, every time he offers you to give up. Of course, if you do not feel safe when he is driving, you do not need to agree, but you can always find another good pretext to avoid a joint trip.
3. Disrespect for the point of view, different from your
A discrepancy in values, religious and ideological views, political views and beliefs – all this is not the reason to convince a friend or depreciate his point of view.
Even if we do not agree with someone else’s opinion, it should be respected (if the views of a person are categorically thrown to you, just do not communicate with him).
4. Looking for flaws
As the English poet Alexander Pup said, “mistaken – humanly, forgive – divine”. All of us have their own shortcomings: your friend can write with mistakes, or make incorrect stresses in words, or be completely devoid of musical hearing, but if he does not ask you to correct it, do not do this. And, of course, do not blame him every time something goes wrong.
5. Betrayal
When we have to be tight, we expect a friend to help us, will be near, will not betray and will not go over to the side of the “enemy”. And our friends, in turn, expect the same from us: that we will not throw them in trouble, we will not turn away, we will not leave alone when we are most needed. With one such act, we can cross out the years of warm friendship.
Yes, you can have many advantages as a friend: you can be an excellent conversationalist, intellectual, soul of the company. But to preserve close relationships, it is much more important not to behave as described above. After all, becoming better is not only to acquire new positive features and qualities, but also to get rid of old negative.
